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After your homestudy is approved, you begin your big wait: waiting for the phone to ring and your social worker to say,” We have a child for you!” With every phone call, your heart momentarily stops as you ask yourself, “Is this it? Is this the call where I learn about my child?”

At the beginning of your international adoption journey, your adoption agency should tell you approximately how long you will have to wait for a referral. Adoption agencies usually talk about referral wait times in terms of averages – the average amount of time their clients wait for referrals from country X. Remember to be flexible! These time estimates are only averages – your wait may be somewhat longer or a good bit shorter. You never know how long your wait will be – our agency told us to expect to wait six to nine months for a referral, but we got “the call” only six weeks after submitting our approved homestudy!


Occasionally, foreign governments will allow photolistings of children to be posted on the Internet. For more information, see Finding & Using Adoption Photolistings.

Credits: Excerpted from "International Adoption Guidebook," Mary M. Strickert, (c) 2004

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Guest - 11 months ago
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I want to adopt a child , where do I start? #1
Ethan - 12 months ago
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I want to adopt a child, were do I start? #2
tina - 2 months ago
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looking to find only girls that are not over the age 12 #3
tina - 2 months ago
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I'm looking for Melissa Sue Goetz, Scott Kenneth Williams, and Crystal Lynn Williams. Melissa was born in Norwich, Ct. Scott and Crystal were born in Parsons, Ks. All were adopted in Ks. It's been 20 years since we've seen each other. I'm missing them so much, and it would be a dream come true to find them and just to hear they are alive and healthy would be all I need for now and maybe later have some contact with them regularly, that's up to them. I want to let them know I still miss them and love them very much, and would be a life changing experience to hear from them. Love always, Mom (Tina Marie) #4
Lawrence - 2 months ago
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Looking for Micheal, born in the Philippines, angles city in 1978. mother is Bebeth Dapinagan. #5
lashonda - 3 months ago
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I want to adoption a children #6
Laurie Jean Westpfahl Miller - 3 months ago
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I would like to know what happened to Laurie Jean Westpfahl she came to see us in Riverside missouri 2006 #7
stephanie sidwell - 3 months ago
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my husband and I have three children now.the oldest is grown up and moved away,our other son is 15 and our daughter is 11.After all these years my husband and I are still so much in love and have so much love to give a baby.a baby that's needs that love.we work hard,and are very god fearing people.going to church is a much in out home.please help us. #8
Guest - 3 months ago
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i want to adopt but did not want to travel want to see if that's possibble? #9
Guest - 3 months ago
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Hello my maiden Bun T. Thorng I give my son up for Adoption in March in 1991. I was wondering if you could hep me find him please . #10
Laurie Jean Westpfahl - 3 months ago
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She came to see her Dad when we lived in Riverside missouri #11
Tameca - 9 months ago
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I want to adopt a child, where do I start #12
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